Comments on: Strength Training http://www.beverlyryle.com/strength-training Winning Strategies for Finding and Creating Work Sat, 21 Jan 2012 04:56:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: susan b http://www.beverlyryle.com/strength-training/comment-page-1#comment-101 susan b Fri, 16 Jul 2010 04:55:41 +0000 http://www.beverlyryle.com/?p=2881#comment-101 I just came across your blog and website..your comments brought tears to my eyes because they jolted me into realizing how common my situation is. How true your insights are regarding the lonliness of being unemployed and how draining that can be. I am not alone though I feel like it. I have been a successful self employed realtor for over 15 years and have been sidelined by this economy. I am used to always looking for work (always hunting for the deal), but this drought of unemployment has worn me down and stolen my confidence. thank you for getting my attitude back on track with your words of wisdom and reminding me that i have strenghts i need to tap into. i needed the nudge and you've inspired me to "keep on keepin on". thank you! I just came across your blog and website..your comments brought tears to my eyes because they jolted me into realizing how common my situation is. How true your insights are regarding the lonliness of being unemployed and how draining that can be. I am not alone though I feel like it. I have been a successful self employed realtor for over 15 years and have been sidelined by this economy. I am used to always looking for work (always hunting for the deal), but this drought of unemployment has worn me down and stolen my confidence. thank you for getting my attitude back on track with your words of wisdom and reminding me that i have strenghts i need to tap into. i needed the nudge and you’ve inspired me to “keep on keepin on”. thank you!

]]> By: Barbara M Traynor http://www.beverlyryle.com/strength-training/comment-page-1#comment-86 Barbara M Traynor Sat, 12 Jun 2010 13:22:44 +0000 http://www.beverlyryle.com/?p=2881#comment-86 Read "Strength Training" just before going to the gym. Right on target! Good health and self-esteem are on-going circles, intertwined, one fuels the other. You may be a little down today, but exercise body and mind to be "up" tomorrow. Good essay. Thanks. Read “Strength Training” just before going to the gym. Right on target! Good health and self-esteem are on-going circles, intertwined, one fuels the other. You may be a little down today, but exercise body and mind to be “up” tomorrow. Good essay. Thanks.

]]> By: Marilee Crocker http://www.beverlyryle.com/strength-training/comment-page-1#comment-85 Marilee Crocker Fri, 11 Jun 2010 14:25:45 +0000 http://www.beverlyryle.com/?p=2881#comment-85 Great article, Bev. What do you suppose is the interplay or overlap between perseverance and resilience? Which comes first? Perseverance seems to mean “staying the course,” while resilience is recovering after a setback or loss, bouncing back, and, in the best case scenario, actually growing from the experience. In researching an article on resilience, I’ve discovered a whole body of work on learnable skills that can improve one’s ability to cope with and recover from adversity. Here are two that I find helpful: 1. Change my thinking. If I’m having difficulty finding work, I may habitually blame myself – “I’m not good enough. I can’t do this. I’ll never succeed.” Or I might look at things more realistically, taking into account the facts of a slumping economy and changes in my profession, business or industry that may require me to learn new skills. 2. Believe I can be effective. Rather than blaming others or falling into why-me thinking, focus on identifying steps I can take to increase my chances of success, then get moving. Other positive factors that contribute to resilience include our social connectedness and our ability to find or create meaning in our lives. Your professional strength training are fabulous. (I especially like: “Find a way to put into the world what you most want.”) And they certainly line up nicely with current notions about what helps us bounce back from hardship. Hmm. I guess I’d call perseverance a critical factor in resilience. You can't have one without the other, right? Great article, Bev. What do you suppose is the interplay or overlap between perseverance and resilience? Which comes first? Perseverance seems to mean “staying the course,” while resilience is recovering after a setback or loss, bouncing back, and, in the best case scenario, actually growing from the experience.

In researching an article on resilience, I’ve discovered a whole body of work on learnable skills that can improve one’s ability to cope with and recover from adversity. Here are two that I find helpful:

1. Change my thinking. If I’m having difficulty finding work, I may habitually blame myself – “I’m not good enough. I can’t do this. I’ll never succeed.” Or I might look at things more realistically, taking into account the facts of a slumping economy and changes in my profession, business or industry that may require me to learn new skills.

2. Believe I can be effective. Rather than blaming others or falling into why-me thinking, focus on identifying steps I can take to increase my chances of success, then get moving.

Other positive factors that contribute to resilience include our social connectedness and our ability to find or create meaning in our lives.

Your professional strength training are fabulous. (I especially like: “Find a way to put into the world what you most want.”) And they certainly line up nicely with current notions about what helps us bounce back from hardship.

Hmm. I guess I’d call perseverance a critical factor in resilience. You can’t have one without the other, right?

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